I had a friend come to me recently about a comment another parent had made to her. She told me that they felt she was making a big deal out of raising a biracial child and that it was like raising any other child.
I do not know who I felt worse for, this amazing woman whose battle I know and share everyday raising my beautiful biracial child or the child of this parent who is obviously not able to recognize the struggles their own child may be enduring. I can accept a comment like this from someone who doesn’t have a biracial child or from someone whose child is very young, but from a fellow parent of a biracial child, really?
Our children don’t always show us the battle, but society will always make sure it is there. It will hit different children at different times, but rest assured that our children will face things that “any other child” will never face.
They will be victims of racism in their lives in one form or another, they will get skipped over for something they deserve for a white child, they will have to answer hard questions like, “what are you”, “is that your mom: or “why is your hair like that? ” They will be called ugly names by some kids and they may even be targeted by police as they get older. If you don’t face the facts they will be ill prepared for even the most minute things that will come.
I am almost angered that someone minimized our children’s struggle!
Just because there are people out there that say racism is not real doesn’t make it any less of a reality. Ignoring the fact that our children will face these battles won’t make them go away, but it does make the child feel more alone in the world, a world they are already looking to find their place in.
To say that they are not going to face these issues because they have white blood is as pathetic and unrealistic as saying that they are black due to the one drop rule.
People need to wake up! These children are not only different, they are special, and they need to be raised by strong women who can get them ready for the things to come. They are not only our future but they are the future generations. It is up to us to build them up, and we must teach them how to fight ignorance rather than being ignorant ourselves.
Raising Biracial Children is not the same as single race child.
The only people who can get away with saying this would be a black parent, period. This is because their children do suffer the same setbacks, discrimination, favoritism and losses, the same racism that ours eventually do face. So, if you say that raising a biracial child is the same as raising any other child you are probably doing it wrong, which will end up hurting that amazing child who needs you to recognize the differences while building them up for the journey ahead. After all, how can anyone possibly prepare someone for something they themselves refuse to acknowledge?
This is a journey our children have to make on their own, but we as parents can unite on blogs like this one, interact and share in our journeys hence helping those who come after us. Please leave your comments after the blogs you read here on the BiracialBoom website. When it is left in Facebook comments many never get a chance to learn of/ from your contributions.
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